10 Reasons You Aren’t at Peace with Yourself

Are you at peace with yourself? If not, when did you last feel content? Every time you feel unhappy, the world seems such a dull and unappealing place. That’s not the way it’s supposed to be!

There may be lots of reasons you might not feel at peace. If that’s the case, here are 10 recommendations you can use to make improvements and gain complete peace and happiness.

1. You focus too much on your past mistakes

The past can steal our joy from the present, if you let it. We always worry too much about what could have been or how things could have been different.

We spend too much time reliving a mistake that we made and regretting our choices that we miss the joy in the present. Learn to accept that you cannot change the past, move on but take the lesson with you.

2. Fear of the unknown

Anyone can go through the fear of the unknown in their lives. Where you stick to a relationship, even if things are not working out, or you stick to your job although you are being mistreated or abused because you fear that if you move on you might never find another job, or another spouse.

It is normal to fear what the future holds, but never let this hold you back. Happy is the man who travels the path less trodden.

3. You don’t take care of yourself

Sometimes life leads us to focus too much on taking care of others. For example, if your spouse or a close family member is suffering from a long-term illness, if you take care of children or elderly relatives or you just seem to never put yourself first.

As a result, we might get so absorbed with taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves and be happy. All the exhaustion and neglect will start reflecting in our mood swings.

Learn to take care of yourself before you can care for others.

4. You try too hard to please everyone

You might have a self-identity crisis where you are still trying to find yourself. In most cases, this leads to imitations and trying too hard to please everyone.

You will come to the realisation that you can never please everyone and what you are doing is hurting those who are close to you (including yourself).

You can never please everyone. Different people have different preferences. Never be afraid to be you, and the right people will come your way and stay.

5. You are in your comfort zone

When was the last time you tried something new? When did you go to a new restaurant or try out a new recipe? When did you ever take a risk?

Maybe the reason you are not at peace with yourself is simply that your life is boring, and you are used to following the same routine daily. You are so predictable that everyone around you knows your next move.

If you want to be happy, get yourself out there and go to a party or take a vacation to a random destination or if you’re single, throw caution to the wind and go on a date. Dye your hair a crazy colour or better still, get a full makeover.

It doesn’t matter what it is, just do whatever takes your fancy. Excitement always comes with the element of surprise. Write a bucket list and start trying out everything on it.

6. You aim for perfection so can’t be happy

Nobody is perfect, and nobody will ever be. Aiming for perfection is setting up yourself for failure. Accept that all you can give is your best shot - and that’s OK.

Do not expect others to be perfect either. If you keep searching for the perfect spouse, the perfect friend or the perfect employee, you will end up disappointed.

In whatever you do, give it your best shot and do not be so anxious that no matter the outcome, you will be happy that you did your best.

7. You take things too personally

When you are over-sensitive and take things too personally, you are piling up negative energy, which will leave you feeling like you are not at peace with yourself.

Learn to take things lightly. Never hold grudges and learn to forgive quickly (including yourself).

8. You eat too much junk

Studies have proven that junk food contains too much sugar and carbohydrates. This combination always leads to a sugar crash later on, and the result is emotional deflation...

A good recommendation would be to eat more foods rich in nutrients and regularly drink plenty of water. This will boost your energy levels and give you an emotional uplift. Eating junk food is not forbidden but do it in moderation.

9. You don’t exercise regularly

Sitting around the house doing nothing can lead to a disruption of your blood circulation. This is the perfect recipe for a dull day and a restless you!

When you exercise, you boost your blood circulation, especially to your brain. Your body also releases endorphins and oxytocin (AKA The Hormone of Love).

These hormones make you feel happy and refreshed. Feeling bored? How about hitting the gym for a while or going for a swim? (Thank me later 😉).

10. You spend too much time indoors

There is nothing better than the relief that comes with breathing in fresh air and being in a perfect outdoor breeze. Spending too much time indoors can depress you because your world revolves around the same tiny suffocating space.

There is an entire world out there full of possibilities for you to enjoy. Go for an afternoon walk and enjoy nature or meet new people. You never know whom you might run into at the park…

You can give yourself permission to focus on you and your happiness. Ask yourself what makes you happy, then go out there and do it.

Only you can achieve happiness for yourself. It doesn’t matter where you are at the moment, what matters most is what you plan to do about it.

Now go and be happy and at peace 😎