How to Disagree without Arguing

How to Disagree without Arguing
People you interact with in life will disagree with you on at least a few things.

However, you probably also learned that it’s important to assert your own position without getting ensnared in a petty argument.

If you’re curious about the best way to disagree with someone without harming the relationship.

Here are six tips that you can start applying immediately.

1. Never Argue with a Fool


One of the most important ways to disagree with someone without causing an argument is to avoid interactions with people who argue just to argue.

If you can tell that someone is arguing a contrary opinion for the sake of engaging you in a debate, don’t waste your time. Acknowledge your own disagreement in the silence of your heart and move on.

People are seldom, if ever, persuaded by debating, and engaging someone who “just likes to debate” sets you on the same juvenile level as them.

There’s an old saying that goes “Never argue with a fool, because people watching from a distance may not be able to tell the difference.”

Remember this the next time someone disagrees with you and choose your battles wisely.

2. Focus on Understanding First


When someone argues with you, all they’re trying to do is get you to understand their point of view.

The problem is that many of us get confused and think if we affirm to someone that we understand them; we somehow agree with them.

The moment you focus on understanding others and showing to them you understand them, they’ll be much more likely to respect you ... even if you disagree.

3. Value the Truth above All


Sometimes, disagreeing with a person is not the best course of action. There will be times when you are wrong and the other person is right ... but your pride keeps you from admitting that you’re wrong.

The next time you find yourself in a discussion where you seem to disagree with the person, switch your focus and concentrate on making the point of the discussion a search for what’s true.

You never know what you might learn if you just learn to listen and focus on truth instead of on your opinion or the other person’s opinion.

4. Offer Your Opinion as “Food for Thought”


Instead of offering your opinion as being counter to the other person’s, offer it as “something to think about” instead.

This can be a very effective way of presenting your opinion without offending someone.

For instance, if someone tells you that their interpretation of something is _____, offer your view by saying something like: “That’s an interesting point, but here’s something else to think about ...”

This way, you’re affirming their viewpoints before suggesting yours, and you’re suggesting it as a question instead of a statement of truth.

5. Watch Your Tone


Everyone knows that the tone in which you say something speaks volumes, sometimes more than the statement itself.

Since it can be very difficult to read whether there is judgment, agitation, anger or arrogance in your own voice, practice recording yourself while you’re talking about something that you strongly disagree with.

Really take the time to describe why you disagree with it and listen to the recording after you’re done. It might surprise you at what kinds of hidden messages there are in the tone of your voice.

You’ll also become much quicker to correct your tone and to speak to people with respect, even when you’re disagreeing with them.

6. Know Your Motives


This is probably the most important thing you can do for relating with people whom you disagree with: know your motives.

Really stop and ask yourself whether you are disagreeing with the person or if you’re trying to be heard and understood.

Most of the time, people will continue to voice opposing opinions if they don’t feel that they are being heard.

If they continue to feel that they’re not being heard or understood, they sometimes start belittling the other person’s viewpoints just to “get back at them.”

Really search yourself and find out whether you are voicing your opinion for the sake of contributing to the interaction, or if you just want someone to hear you and understand you.

TIP: If you have strong opinions that are getting you into arguments with other people, it might be a good idea to find out why you feel so strongly about them.

Most often, defensiveness towards others is because of inner conflict. Working these kinds of things out can make your interactions with other people much better.

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