Are you sceptical about using “positive” affirmations? When you hear the term, do you sigh and think “what a load of old mumbo jumbo!”. Or do you think,
“if I tell myself positive things, won’t I simply become delusional?”
Many people actively cultivate negative thoughts and beliefs about themselves. For example, saying things like, “I am doomed!” or “I am constantly awkward in social situations” or “I never make the right decisions!” or “I know I will fail”.
However, what happens in this mindset is that if you continually tell yourself these kinds of things, then ultimately you will start accepting them as your default state.
We call these deceptions; we tell ourselves these lies all the time. Even though deep down we know they aren’t true, we keep telling ourselves they are, anyway. Ultimately, they become true inside our heads. It’s a vicious cycle.