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| Can Your Numbers Give You The Gift of Self-Love? |
Having a healthy self esteem is crucial for your wellbeing and enables you to thrive in life.
I’m sure in our lives most of us have known what it’s like to experience feelings of self-doubt or self-loathing. Some people seem to overcome it naturally, but others require a little more help.
Why Having Low Self-Esteem Can Hamper You
- It can put you at a disadvantage in life because if you don’t value yourself, it’s hard to value anything else.
- You might lack assertiveness, and this will definitely hold you back.
- Your body language can come across negatively e.g. you might appear lacking in confidence or submissive, or, aloof or disinterested.
- You may avoid social situations.
- You may not take jobs that you are clearly capable and qualified to do which will impact your career progression.
- You might lack self respect and this will feed into negative behavioural patterns such as drinking heavily or other forms of destructive behaviour.
Having low self-esteem can impact you in several ways, so if this is this case - it’s time that you come first now! Even if up until now that hasn’t come naturally.
So I’ve put together 5 steps to help you improve your self esteem, together with a related quote that looks at the same theme.
I hope you find them helpful - please let me know if they helped you see yourself in a better light because trust me, however bad you feel about yourself, it’s down to your perception - and this is what you need to change!
5 Steps to Help You Improve Your Self-Esteem
1. Make a list of your strengths or positive sides
“An individual’s self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behaviour: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.”
- Dr Joyce Brothers
I understand that if you’re suffering from low self-esteem, this might seem difficult but just give it a shot, even if it’s just to make a start.
You can ask someone who’s close to you to tell you, if you’re feeling you can’t do it or are finding it hard to come up with positives.
You might surprise yourself at what positives others see in you that you don’t realise! Write them down and keep them close to you so you can refer back to them whenever you need.
2. Get out of your comfort zone
“Change can either challenge or threaten us. Your beliefs pave your way to success or block you.”
- Marsha Sinetar
Again, this might seem impossible to do if you have low self-esteem. Just take small steps. Join a club, take up a new hobby or try a new sport - it will expand your social circle at the very least.
Or try something different to your normal routine. Perhaps visit a museum or local tourist attraction you’ve never been to. It will give you new insights and raise your spirits. It will also give you some time just for you.
3. Having good self-esteem and a strong self-image originates from within
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
– Buddha
What goes on around you can’t really influence your self-esteem. So ask yourself if there are things about the way you think (and therefore behave) that are causing these negative feelings.
Can you be needy? Do you need to get reassurance from others before you make choices in your life? Do you relentlessly worry what others think of you?
Have a quiet moment of reflection and examine your thoughts and feelings and see if these are the kinds of things that affect your self esteem.
4. Forget blaming everyone else for how you feel
“A mind like a home, is furnished by its owner, so if one’s life is cold and bare he can blame none but himself”
- Louis L’Amour
Blaming people is the best way to shift power onto other individuals. It’s such a powerless situation you put yourself in.
Stop blaming your parents, siblings, teachers, bosses...whoever!
Take control of your destiny and live your life true to yourself. The improvement to your self image and self-esteem will take off into heights you never thought possible.
5. Be yourself!
“Beauty is a radiance that originates from within and comes from inner security and strong character.”
- Jane Seymour
Perhaps it’s a cliché but who else can you be? Everyone else is taken. Accept who you are, celebrate that, and live it with enthusiasm! You cannot act out other people’s scripts, however hard you try.
Learning to trust yourself and who you really are as a person will give you a clearer sense of how you will carve out your own path in life and will improve your self esteem.
You are a beautiful and unique human being!
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