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I’m often asked how to build effective relationships. However, we often perceive relationships as delicate things that require exceptional amounts of effort to maintain.
Despite their many trials, though, relationships can provide long-lasting security and happiness.
Building effective and lasting relationships is a necessity. In a group or organisation, the wellbeing of the people in it depends on how efficient and effective that group or organisation works.
In a company setting, for example, the organisation also depends on how well the members work with management. An ineffective group or organisation can be really frustrating.
An Effective Relationship Avoids Resentment
An effective group or organisation can get so much more from their members, without the resentment that sometimes arises when people sacrifice other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines.
With resentments running high, relationships can suffer an eventual breakdown. People who depend on these groups or organisation then also suffer.
We define society through a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal.
Having effective relationships, where cooperation and respect are the norm, makes society work better. Where each member works for the benefit of the whole and towards achieving the common good.
How do you build effective relationships then?
Active Listening is Key
Understanding the other parties’ feelings and position makes the first step towards an effective relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say.
When the other party realises this, they feel the importance given to them. Effective relationships require parties to express openly their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent to the relationship.
Assuming that the other party understands our needs without asking first is not good practice.
Respect Yourself and Others
Respect is key to relationships. In order to create more effective relationships, parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function.
You can also show respect to other parties by acknowledging that they are doing everything they can. The opposite of respect is the quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.
Respect is a foundation for great relationships. This also means respecting yourself as well as others.
Difference is Beautiful
Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences with the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting.
For example, in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives. Working towards a win-win solution for both parties is paramount.
This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with them to overcome the disagreement.
Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.
Thou Shall Not Judge
Not pre-judging is important. Informal discussions are conducive for both parties.
They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also make people feel more relaxed, allowing them to think more clearly.
This develops an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to. When parties cannot express what’s on their mind or their feelings, it can impede building effective relationships.
Hurdles to Overcome Are Normal
People know obstructive things exist, but should control themselves anyway in dealings with any relationship.
Some of these things include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for the strained relationship.
Or excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, having no clear and defined objectives, roles, and unrealistic expectations.
Relationships are important to all of us. Addressing issues and problems in the correct way is essential to improving relationships.
As they say, ‘No man is an Island’.
What makes you tick?
Improve your relationships here by exploring your Soul Urge Numbers
